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Why Do They Watch What They Claim to Hate? A Soft Reflection on Stalking, Projection, and the Shadow of Desire
There’s something strange, almost tragic, about being watched so closely by someone who claims to despise you. It’s a pattern I’ve seen...
Oct 9


What Is a Lingam Massage, Really?
If you’ve come across the term lingam massage and felt a mix of curiosity, hesitation, or raised eyebrows, you’re not alone. It’s one of...
Oct 7


The Ebb and Flow of Arousal: Why Losing Your Erection Doesn’t Mean Losing the Moment
Let’s Name What No One Talks About You’re in a sensual moment. It’s warm. Present. You feel her breath, her touch. Everything is...
Aug 6


Can You Pay for Intimacy and Still Keep Your Integrity?(Spoiler: Yes)
Let’s talk about the question most men never say out loud—but quietly carry inside: “If I pay for intimacy… does that make me less of a...
Aug 6


The Real Shame Isn’t Us - It’s the Stigma
The Stigma We Live With: Why It's Time to Normalize Intimacy Work As someone who works in the intimacy industry here in Aotearoa and...
Jul 7


Intimacy After Loss: Navigating Connection When Your Heart is Healing
Because moving forward doesn't mean moving on Let's talk about something most people don't prepare you for: what happens to intimacy...
Jun 2
What's your frequency #5: Body Wisdom: A Somatic Technique to Release What's Stuck
Because sometimes healing happens below the level of words. We've talked about emotional flow and why feelings need to move through your...
Jun 2


What's your frequency #4: Emotional Flow: Why Blocked Feelings Create Energetic Traffic Jams (And How to Get Things Moving Again)
Your emotions aren't the problem. The dam you built to hold them back is. Like Niagara Falls, sometimes the most beautiful thing happens...
Jun 2


What's your frequency #3: Science-Backed Ways to Clear Your Energy Field
Because sometimes you need more than deep breathing to shift what's stuck You know that feeling when you walk into a room and immediately...
Jun 2


What’s your frequency #2: Your Vibe Matters-How to Take Responsibility for the Energy You Bring
You’ve probably heard the phrase: “Leave your baggage at the door.” But energy doesn’t work like that. You can’t always just drop it . If...
May 8


What’s your frequency #1: You Are Energy; The Science Behind Your Vibe
This series is a loving nudge to help raise awareness about the energy we all bring into shared spaces, especially intimate ones. Because...
May 8


Overthinking Erections? Let’s Talk About It.
From “What If?” to “What Feels Good?” Let’s talk about something many men silently carry: the fear of not getting—or staying—erect. When...
May 6


First-Time Nerves? Let’s Take the Pressure Off
It’s completely normal to feel a little nervous before your first booking. In fact, a lot of my clients tell me the same thing: “I wasn’t...
May 4


The Bedroom Rebuild Series #5: How Lingam Massage Supports Deep Recovery
Prostate surgery can be life-changing — not just physically, but emotionally and intimately.It ’s common for men to quietly wonder: Will...
May 4


The Bedroom Rebuild Series #4: Returning to Intimacy The First Time After Prostate Surgery
For many men recovering from prostate surgery, the thought of being intimate again can feel like standing at the edge of unfamiliar...
May 3


The Bedroom Rebuild Series #3: Stages of Healing & Visualizations to Support You After Prostate Surgery
Undergoing prostate surgery is a big event—not just for your body, but for your sense of self. Recovery can feel like uncharted...
May 3


The Bedroom Rebuild Series #2: A Gentle Timeline for Recovery After Surgery - What to Expect
Every man is different, but here’s what healing may look like with a birds eye view—and how to stay connected along the way. Whether...
May 3


The Bedroom Rebuild Series #1: Confidence, Connection & Intimacy After Prostate Surgery—Without the Pressure
I’m writing this in the hope that more men will stumble across it—whether they’ve already had prostate surgery or are preparing to go...
May 3


Rimming 101
We have had some keen interest in this area recently, so this is clarification for those who have become curious about how escorts...
Nov 16, 2020
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