10 Years in Sex Work Today, and Honestly? Best Decision I Ever Made

Today marks 10 years since I started sex work.

Ten years.

And I'm celebrating!

On 19 March, ten years ago, I made a decision that completely changed the direction of my life. At the time, I didn’t know exactly what it would become. I just knew I was ready for something different.

And honestly? It turned out to be one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.

I Had No Idea How Much It Would Change Me

When I first started, I knew it would be a career change.

What I didn’t realise was how much it would change me as a person too.

This work has taught me so much about people, about men, about connection, about boundaries, about energy, about reading between the lines, and about what people are really craving underneath all the surface stuff.

And most of the time, it’s not what people assume.

Yes, chemistry matters.

But so often, what people are really hungry for is presence.

To be able to exhale.

To stop performing.

To feel comfortable.

To be met authentically.

That’s something this work has shown me over and over again.

It’s Given Me More Than I Ever Expected

This career has given me a lot.

It’s helped me grow confidence in myself.

It’s taught me how to hold strong boundaries.

It’s shown me how important it is to stay grounded and clear.

It’s also given me a deeper understanding of people than I think I could have gained in almost any other line of work.

You see a lot in this job.

You hear a lot.

You learn very quickly that everyone has their own story, their own insecurities, their own pressures, and their own ways of coping.

That’s made me softer in some ways, stronger in others, and a lot more aware of what really matters.

It’s Also Made Me Proud

And I think that’s something worth saying out loud.

I’m proud of what I’ve built.

I’m proud of the standards I hold.

I’m proud of the way I work.

I’m proud of the kind of space I create.

People don’t always see the professionalism, care, preparation, consistency, and emotional intelligence that goes into this work, but it’s there. And after 10 years, I know that what I offer has real value.

Not just in the obvious sense, but in the way people leave feeling lighter, more relaxed, more seen, and more connected.

My Only Regret

If I’m honest, my only regret is not doing it sooner.

That’s the truth.

Not because it’s always been easy.

Not because every day has been perfect.

But because it ended up being so much more aligned for me than I ever expected.

Sometimes the thing you’re nervous to step into turns out to be the thing that fits you best.

Ten Years Later

Ten years on, I feel grateful.

Grateful for the growth.

Grateful for the lessons.

Grateful for the people I’ve met.

Grateful that I took a chance on something unconventional and found that it gave me a life, a livelihood, and a depth of experience I genuinely value.

That feels pretty special.

So today, I’m celebrating.

Ten years in.

And I’d choose it all again.

What has meant the most

What has probably been most revealing over the past 10 years is seeing how the people closest to me responded to my career change.

Considering the stigma that still exists around this kind of work, their support is something I’ve never taken lightly.

My brother. My daughter. My parents. My friends.

The way they embraced this chapter of my life showed me very clearly who my real tribe is.

And if I’m honest, the only opinion that truly mattered to me on a deep level was my daughter’s.

So with that in mind, this was the message she sent me today:

Receiving that meant more to me than I can put into words.

Because at the end of the day, beyond the work itself, beyond the growth, beyond the life this career has helped me build, knowing that the people I love most can see it for what it has truly been in my life means everything.

Have a cheers for me tonight "chin-chin".