Read This Before You Text Me. This Is What Respect Actually Looks Like.

Your Time. My Time. Let's Talk About It.

Time is the one thing none of us get back.

You know this. I know this. And yet, somewhere between knowing it and actually living it, a lot of people forget to apply it to how they treat other people's time. Including mine.

I've been doing this work for a long time. I'm good at it. I care about the men I see, genuinely, and I bring my whole self to every booking. But I'm also at a point in my life where I'm becoming very deliberate about where my energy goes.

My availability will now be reducing.

My bookings each week are limited. And the bar for who gets access to that time is going up.

This post is about what that means for you. And how to be someone who makes the cut.

What's actually on offer here

My hours are listed on my profile. What those hours represent is my availability window, not a guarantee of space. Within that window, there are a limited number of bookings each week. Outside of touring, I'm not taking a full day's work. That's a deliberate choice, and it's not changing.

What this means practically is that the men who book with me tend to be organised. They plan ahead. They communicate well. They've done their homework before they reach out.

If that sounds like effort, it is. A small amount of effort. The kind any adult is capable of. And the kind that tells me, before we've even met, what kind of person I'm dealing with.

What good communication actually looks like

Here's a real example of a booking enquiry that works:

"Hi Brooke, I'm 43, visiting Napier in February and wondered if I could book with you. I was hoping for the 23rd at around 10am for the 90 minute Elite Full Service, with toys on you as the extra. Happy to pay a deposit. Look forward to hearing from you."

That's it. That's all it takes.

He's read the profile. He knows which service he wants. He's selected a specific date and time. He's included the extra he'd like, which saves us both a back-and-forth. He's offered a deposit without being asked. He's written like an adult communicating with another adult.

That enquiry gets a prompt response. That enquiry gets prioritised.

Now here's what the other end looks like:

"hey can I book today"

No introduction. No service. No time. Nothing to work with.

Even if I wanted to respond to that, I'd have to go back and ask what service, what time, what extras. That's my time being spent doing work you could have done before you hit send. And honestly? The fact that you didn't tells me something.

Or there's the classic:

"what massages do you have""how much are your services""massage and BJ?""you up for some fun"

Everything you need to know is on my profile. The services are listed. The fees are listed. The booking process is listed.

If you're asking me questions my website already answers, you haven't read it. And if you haven't read it, you're not someone who respects my time.

On the self-introduction

There's a particular kind of message I want to address directly, because it comes up more than you'd think.

"I'm 23, athletic build, well endowed."

I'll be straightforward with you. I don't care. Not even a little.

What your body looks like has absolutely no bearing on whether I take a booking from you. None. And if you're leading with that information because you believe it gives you some kind of advantage, or places you higher in an imaginary hierarchy above men who are older or heavier or less conventionally built, then you've told me something important about yourself.

You've told me you think there's a pecking order. That physical attributes entitle you to more consideration than someone else. That you've walked into this interaction thinking about what you bring to the table rather than how you communicate with the person on the other side of the table.

That's not someone I want in my space. Not because of your body. Because of what that message reveals about how you think about other people.

What happens when you get it wrong

If you send a lazy, disrespectful, or thoughtless enquiry, one of two things will happen.

Most likely, nothing. Your message won't be answered. Not out of rudeness, but because my time is finite and responding to enquiries that show no regard for that time is not a good use of it.

Occasionally, you'll get a response with the word feedback in it. If that happens, consider yourself lucky. It means you happened to send your message at a moment when I had the time and the inclination to bother. It's not a reflection of how close you were to getting it right. It's just timing. Take the feedback on board, or don't. But don't mistake it for more than it is.

A note on respect

I treat every client with warmth, discretion, and genuine care. That's not a performance.

That's who I am and how I work.

But warmth is not the same as tolerance for poor behaviour. I have very clear boundaries, and one of them is this: I will not spend my most valuable asset — my time — with someone who hasn't demonstrated basic respect before we've even met.

You're enquiring about an adult service. You are, by definition, an adult.

Communicate like one.

Read the profile. Know the services. Know the fees. Choose your booking. State your preferred date and time. Include any extras you'd like. Offer a deposit. Give a brief introduction.

That's it. That's the whole thing. It takes five minutes and it changes everything about how your enquiry lands.

The men who do this get seen. They get prioritised. They get a warm, considered response and, if we're a good fit, a genuinely exceptional experience.

The men who don't, don't hear from me.

The choice, as always, is yours.

Brooke xx