Myth #5: Performance Matters More Than Presence Let me let you in on something that most men don't get told. After years of intimate work with men - really being in the room  with them - I can tell you with absolute certainty: the men who are most memorable, most satisfying to be with, are rarely the ones trying the hardest. They're the ones who are actually there . The Story Most Men Are Running There's a script a lot of men carry into intimacy without even realising it: I n